My daughter is going to be 4 next month and we have always practiced attachment parenting with her. Now that she is getting older, she is blossoming into her own person and doesn't need me as much as she once did. She started preschool this year, which was harder on me than on her. I had always read that attachment parenting children end up becoming more independent because they are confident and secure from always having someone "there for them". I had also read the other side of this where many people assume these children are more needy and have a hard time breaking away. I was confident that attachment parenting was best for us and I never thought the latter would be true. When my daughter went to her first day of school, she let go of me hand, was first on line and marched right in with a big smile on her face. She came out of school with the same smile and has been that was everyday since. I was so proud of her but also a little sad that my baby didn't need me as much. I know this is part of raising our children, but it really does twist a thorn in your heart. I prepare her daily with positive affirmations in the hopes that she becomes a nice girl who is friendly to everyone. I can't say the same for myself growing up so this is something very important to me and she comes home daily talking about all her friends.
Along with attachment parenting, we cosleep. For almost 4 years my daughter has slept cuddled between my husband and I. We did buy her own bed and sheets last year when she asked for them, but she hasn't been ready to sleep in her room yet. We never pushed it on her and we've been waiting for when she would ask to sleep in her own bed on her own terms. The other day, she stated that she wanted to try to sleep in her bed, so my husband went out and got her a special Frozen night light and I laid with her until she fell asleep. She slept in her bed for a few hours then woke up calling me and I brought her in my bed. No pressure for her to stay in her bed. I believe in nighttime parenting strongly. We are going to work on this nightly, but only if she agrees to it. I know some people are very much against cosleeping but for us it has worked. I love knowing if she wakes up afraid, I am right there for her. She is building confidence everyday which shows in actions like this. I didn't expect her to sleep the whole night in her room, but if she did, I wouldn't of been surprised either.
Not having her next to me for the first few hours of the night was very strange and a little sad. I'm so proud of the kid she is becoming. The whole thing is very bittersweet, but I guess that's parenting for you!